Can one sin and still be a good person?

We live at a time in history when technology and advancements are coming forward at breakneck speeds. You bought your new phone that has all the latest possibilities, only to find that six months later there is a newer and better model.cell phone

If you are my age, some of this just doesn’t come naturally. I have to work at remembering all the bells and whistles on things. In fact, I have typed up cheat sheets to keep me from missing a step on some of the things I do on my computer.

homeworkA few days ago I got a bit cocky and thought I could send some files to Alex without using my sheet. Turns out I forgot the most important part and it cost Alex more time than it was worth for her.

I’ll just keep using the sheet to be safe.

I marvel, though, at the same rapidity of changes in morals, ethics, and sexual promiscuity. Things that for centuries had been considered, well, to be sins are now common place.

But it’s more than just common place, it is being demanded to be the norm and acceptable.

I have seen and read several media where people have been angry at the saying “hate the sin, but love the sinner.”

That doesn’t make a lot of sense to me why this would make people angry.

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I learned long ago that the real definition of charitable love is “the ability to separate the behavior from the human being.”

Seeing how we are all doing things that we shouldn’t, it would benefit us all to be a little more kind as we each try to do our best.

 

 

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But the people who express disgust at this notion actually seem to demand that we not only love them as a person, but that we approve of all they do.

It’s not so much as needing to love the sinner as well as loving the sin, but more that there really must be no sin at all.

Well, who wouldn’t want that?

Do whatever you want to do, and just run with it, as long as it isn’t running over the top of others.

But then, even that would be the norm in certain situations.supreme-court

I heard someone say that in Washington, the truth is what you need it to be.

I wish we could be shocked and/or laugh at the absurdity of it all.

But we know better.

So we jump to the other extreme and feel as if we must wage war on all the sinners out there. They are to be hated and shunned and stopped.

And if that doesn’t work, we’ll just pretend they don’t exist.

That will show them.

As usual, isn’t the truth somewhere in the middle?

The fact is that each of us sin, whether you want to call it that or not.

Sin is sin, even if we label it as personal preference, or just being an adult, or it’s my own body, or I can’t help myself because it is who I really am, or it’s okay as long as we don’t get caught.

We seem to pounce on that last one a lot.interview

Once we catch someone doing something they probably shouldn’t be doing, it follows the news cycle, until someone else messes up even more.

And this makes those of us caught try to redefine what we did and convince others that there really wasn’t anything wrong about it at all.

One of my favorites was “I just didn’t inhale.”

Sadly, people actually seemed to buy that.

In my opinion, we are petrified of being caught doing something wrong. Not because what we were doing is wrong, but because we got caught doing it.

And we can’t stand the thought that others would think we did something wrong.

Almost like a child being caught with their hand in the cookie jar. They will tell you they didn’t do it, with the cookie still in their hand. cookies2

So, love the sinner, love the sin, and just eliminate anything that could be thought of as sin. It really is impossible to do something as archaic as sinning in the 21st century anyway. We are more enlightened than that.

Right?

That actually sounds kind of dark to me.

Here’s the deal as I see it:

  1. We all sin. All of us. Probably every day. So we really can’t be casting stones at glass houses, so to speak.
  2. There are a lot of really, really good people in the world. I know more than I can count. I try hard to be more like them every day. They make the world a better place.
  3. So, logic would then imply that good people make mistakes, do things that are wrong, and actually commit sin.
  4. I’m not offended when other people think that I have done something wrong. If I agree with them, I appreciate the chance to do something about it. If I don’t agree with them, then I just forget about it and move on.

Because I own my choices. How can I be offended if I know deep within that I am doing what I want to do? I think I only get offended when deep inside I’m not so sure of my position.

I know that I am a sinner. Everyone is a sinner. But I still have peace inside that I am trying to be the best person I can be.

Both can exist together at the same time. In fact, they have to if we have any hope of being that “good” person we want to be.

Otherwise, we’d just end up being pretty rotten – sinners who don’t want to change.

Kind of mind blowing, I know, but there it is.

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Rather than life being an all-or-nothing proposition, it is built on the countless decisions and choices we make every day.

And then the countless decisions and choices we make the next day.

 

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The goal is to be making better decisions tomorrow than we made today. Not perfect decisions, but better.

I know that’s a lot to remember. I could miss a couple of steps now and then.

Maybe even the most important one.

That’s okay. I have a cheat sheet. Actually, I have quite a few.

And I’m not afraid to use them.

What are the cheat sheets you have to help you be a little better tomorrow than you were today, even knowing that you will still make mistakes?

Use them.smiling

Good people do.

 

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