We help alcoholics; why not those wanting to fight same-sex attraction?

This is part 5 of a 7-part series on same-sex attraction

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We’ve talked a lot in this series about, well, talking.

Taking same-sex attraction and homosexuality out of the shadows and bringing it into the light is HUGE.

So, what happens when people start to talk?

Others listen.

No, really. It’s actually possible that someone will hear.

If you are one who understands all too well same-sex attraction, speak up.

On the other hand, if you are one who doesn’t understand this whole same-sex wiring, what can you do?

talking3Keep your mouth shut and listen.

Ask questions.

Then listen some more.

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How do we overcome what feels to be insurmountable same-sex wiring?

This is part 4 of a 7-part series on same-sex attraction

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To overcome:

1 Succeed in dealing with a problem or difficulty; get the better of; control

2 Defeat an opponent; prevail; conquer; vanquish

conquer

All my life I have connoted overcoming something with eliminating it from my life. It is only conquered when it disappears.

But, what if I can’t “make it disappear?”

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Do we damn ourselves (or others) to a life of doom and loneliness because of these real physical feelings?

This is part 3 of a 7-part series on same-sex attraction

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What is the purpose of life?

Ahhh.

platoCan’t we all hear the philosophers elbowing each other out of the way in a rush to debate and defend different positions on what exactly is the reason we keep breathing?

Let’s save some time and just sweep them out of the way.

Bye bye.

Now let’s tweak the question: What is the purpose of your life?

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What does it really mean to be attracted to someone?

This is part 2 of a 7-part series on same-sex attraction

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It wasn’t as prevalent when I was a teenager as it is now. We were simplistic enough to just say “hey, do you like her?” or “do you think he likes me?” while we lean against our locker and watch them walk down the hall. lockers

I know. You’re thinking “What is he, 12?”

My favorite was “does she make your hormones hum?”

But now it is all about being attracted to someone. “I feel attracted to her; does he feel attracted to me?”

Or the opposite: “I just don’t feel any attraction to this person.”

The level of attraction will determine whether or not the next step is to pursue a date.

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Why should we have the conversation about same-sex attraction in the first place?

This is part 1 in a 7-part series on same-sex attraction. 

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Each side is certain they are right and the other is wrong. So what would there be to discuss?

It’s a good question.

I’ve always enjoyed literature and film that reflect on the past.

cadillacThere really isn’t one period that I like more than another; the turn of the century, the roaring 20s, the seeming simplicity of the 1950s, the reminder of my childhood from the 70s. I’m not willing to admit yet that the 80s are the past, or even worth remembering for that matter.

Maybe someday.

But it’s interesting to me to see how different things were.

Watching “I Love Lucy” and seeing that she had to report to her husband as if she were a child makes me scratch my head how anyone ever found that the norm. Continue reading Why should we have the conversation about same-sex attraction in the first place?