Don’t prejudiced people just drive you nuts?

For years I have scratched my head in bewilderment at the anger and animosity the LGBT community displays. It’s almost a hyper-sensitive, prejudged response to anything less than the blanket embracing of their values.

I just wasn’t sure where all of this defensiveness and immediate-assumption of outside hatred was coming from.

But last night I had a bit of an epiphany.

Our daughter is on the east coast going to graduate school. She loves it. That makes me smile just typing it. For the first time in her life, she is experiencing what she has always imagined education could be; what it really should be: intense discussion of important issues, bringing many varying perspectives to the table, and recognizing that there is truth coming from all directions.


This also brings the recognition that one person doesn’t possess all the facts, all the understanding of these ever-evolving issues. The facts become clearer as all the necessary ingredients are added to the pot.

It also shines light on another fact: no one is completely a victim without also being a little prejudiced.

Let me explain.

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Feel like you’re drowning?  

How long can you hold your breath?

I guess it would depend on a variety of factors, wouldn’t it? Lung conditioning, body size, depth of determination. I’m sure there are many.

How long can you hold your breath under water?

swimming7The factors from above suddenly take on secondary importance, don’t they? Now the first factor comes down to one question really: how badly do you want to stay alive?

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We really do end where we begin

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Why do we pray?

The other night Ann and I were talking about things that are really important to us – you know, the things for which we choose to give our lives.

The things we pray intently for, about, and over.


My days have become a kind of a running dialogue with Heaven: gratitude; people we care about; our leaders; increased faith and charity.

There are as many things to pray about as I have breaths.

However, I would be willing to bet that each of us has a very personal, very important list of things we pray for continuously; a list of things that are always in our minds and our hearts.

        (Source: LDS Media Library)

My list has whittled itself down to three: Specific blessings for Ann, specific blessings for Alex, and specific blessings for Nick.

My family.

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Where do we learn to question?

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Dad, why does a spider spin its web?

Dad, why are the clouds shaped like a dinosaur?

Dad, why didn’t that cat make it across the road before it was squished?

cloud shapesThe questions of a child. When I was 3 or 4, (in the days when seatbelts were merely an accessory to be tucked back behind the seat, out of the way), I rode with my Dad in our truck. I stood on the seat bench, wedged between his right shoulder and the back of the seat.

And the world was open to me, moving by us almost faster than I could keep up with.


I’m not sure I even waited for the answers. Knowing me as I do, I probably provided most of them myself.

I was quite the fountain of knowledge.

My Dad called me his “commentator on board.”

I credit this foundation for the fact that today, I consider myself a question asker. I learned very young that a curious mind is a wonderful gift to be fed and protected.

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I love you enough to say No

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It’s surprising how often it is the first word a small child will speak.

Well, maybe not that surprising considering it could be the word they hear the most throughout the day.

No, don’t touch that hot stove.

No, you can’t have that sharp knife.

No, don’t hit your sister and make her cry.

These aren’t parents using bad skills; they are good parents trying to keep up with the whirlwind that is a child reaching and touching and exploring more quickly than anyone can keep up with.


And, they are trying to teach a child that there are things that are okay, and things that simply aren’t okay.

They are teaching a child to choose.

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