Category Archives: Owning your decisions

We choose hundreds of times each day; some choices are pretty routine while other decisions make a pretty big difference. The truth is that on the things that really matter, we have the power and the responsibility to choose our path. After, we grow as we stand up and work through the consequences of what we have chosen. If we can choose to enjoy the journey, then we may have just found the real secret to making decisions.

This is our time – to stand

If we are not actively involved in helping with a solution, we really have no credibility in complaining about the problem. 

This is a critical time in history. Each of us, at some point in the future, will need to give an accounting of what we did or didn’t do to make things better.

But be cautious; more often than not, it is the quiet voice of reason that pierces more deeply than the screams and shouts of a frenzied mob.

I’m not going to tell you what positions you should or shouldn’t take, that is your responsibility and yours alone.

But I am going to urge you to do something productive in helping each of us awake from our comfort zone and stand tall in our beliefs, regardless of the consequences.

For my part, I’m starting with a letter to my elected representatives. As a citizen it is not only my right, but my responsibility. Here’s a copy of what I’ve come up with:

Dear Madam or Sir; 

We are in crisis as a nation, and as a people.

We could waste time arguing each other’s points about how we got here, whose fault it is, and all the minutia supporting opposing views or rationalizations for questionable behaviors.

But there simply isn’t time.

The time of fence sitting, political safeguarding, and just trying to keep our heads down in order to avoid the firestorms is over.

Each generation has the responsibility to stand up and be counted on which side of the line we stand.

This is our time.

As your constituent, I need to know exactly where you stand, and more importantly, precisely what is your plan of action regarding this never-ending flow of national crises.

  • Do you still believe that you can work with President Trump in governing our country; and if so, why?
  • Beyond “strongly condemning” the brazen anti-Semitic and racial venom spewed in Charlottesville, what actions will you take to ensure history does NOT repeat itself?
  • At what point will your own moral compass not allow you to keep rationalizing irrational behavior under the guise of doing “the greater good”?
  • Are you willing to act courageously now in fighting for what is right, even if doing so compromises your reelection ambitions?  
  • Will you put America as a whole first, before partisan agendas?

You see, I need you to recognize that this is YOUR time to make your stand, and let me know just what that stand is.

Because it’s also MY time to do the same.

It’s my responsibility to seek out and elect people who are work horses and not show horses, people who understand that it is the culmination of all the small decisions that lead to the ability to make the great decisions, and people who are more concerned about doing right than merely being reelected.

I simply need to know if you are one of those people.

Sincerely,

Greg Batty

Your communication may be the same, or it may be a polar opposite of the one above. What matters most, I think, is that you care enough to pen a letter and send it on.

This really is OUR time – to stand.

It may be alone, or it could be together.

But we’ll never know until we step forward.

To the bully

This is part of a series of letters to those who may feel lost. Sometimes when we are down, discovering something in the mailbox is just the thing.

It reminds us that we aren’t as alone as we think.

However, today I write to a young woman who feels safely distanced enough through Internet anonymity to mindlessly type words to one such as Lily and then hit send.

textingI’m tempted to not dignify her with a name, but that always gives more power to the deceiver. It’s important that we put both a name and a face with the painful text. After all, someone who really knows who they are would never hide behind secrecy.

Let’s call her Ashley.

Ashley,

I know what you’ve been doing to Lily.

I see you shrug your shoulders and say “it was all a joke, it really isn’t that big of a deal – besides everyone was doing it.”

My first instinct is to grab you and shake you so hard that your teeth rattle and then scream “What is wrong with you?”

Okay, it would also be my second.

And my third.

It is NOT a joke.

It really IS a big deal.

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And right now, I’m dealing with you – you can’t hide anymore behind this nameless group called “everybody.”

So, I’ll punch the wall, pace for a few hours, and take some calming breaths.

And quietly ask again:

“What is wrong with you?”

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To the teenager attracted to the same sex

This is part of a series of letters to those who may feel lost. Sometimes when we are down, discovering something in the mailbox is just the thing.

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It reminds us that we aren’t as alone as we think.

Today I write to a young man in pain because his inner yearnings contradict with his inner understandings.

Let’s call him Charlie.

Dear Charlie,  

Hi, my name is Greg and I’m pushing 50, if you can believe it. I can’t. I guess to someone your age that would make me ancient; my kids would probably agree. Of course, since I haven’t ever grown up, I don’t really feel that old myself.

I guess it’s all relative, isn’t it?

Relativity applies to so many things in life. Things that at one point are incredibly overwhelming can become, over time, something manageable.

And even enjoyable sometimes.

Let me explain:

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Have we asked what comes AFTER the anger?

There is a lot of anger out there.

Global, national, political, social, economic, sectarian.

Through years of hiding our heads in the sand and putting off for tomorrow that which we should sacrifice today, we’ve made a mess of a lot of things.

And, to coin a phrase, everyone’s mad as hell.

Understandable.

gunshotIt feels like we have at last arrived at that final straw that will break the camel’s back.

And the resultant wounded roar is much like the shot heard around the world.

So, now that the igniting shot has been fired, what comes next?

To me, it looks like we have two choices: scream more oxygen into the flames and let the inferno burn everyone it touches; or, build a forge.

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Why do you feel that your pain is greater than mine?

To clarify, I’m not stating that I, Greg, have pain that is greater than yours.

I don’t.

But as I read a few things posted recently regarding actively living a homosexual lifestyle and apostasy, and crying out for others to show compassion, I wonder if there are those who feel that their pain is far greater than that of their neighbor.

Perhaps I can offer a more encompassing perspective, though certainly not unique, as one with mental illness and same-sex attraction.

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It would be hard for anyone to argue with me when I say that I feel I am qualified to voice an opinion about same-sex attraction, as well as choosing between suicide and homicidal tendencies and making it to the end of the day with everyone alive and intact, and at the same time actively choosing each day NOT to act upon that which feels natural within – be it sexual or mental.

In many ways, my coping mechanisms for each are the same.

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