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Are we choosing our battles wisely over the marriage debate?

I saw a report of a county clerk who was refusing to issue any marriage licenses at all, stating that to issue a marriage license to a same-sex couple went against her religious beliefs.

It’s possible that this situation could help us dig down and define just exactly what it is we are debating.

Of course, I could be missing it entirely, but I think it’s worth taking a closer look.

Here is a list of facts surrounding this particular case:

check3The first amendment guarantees us that congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.

check3The Supreme Court has just issued a ruling that same-sex marriages are legal and to be recognized in all 50 states. It is law and most realistically will continue to be.

check3People of deep faith have a different understanding and reverence for marriage than those who view it more as a civil union performed by a magistrate.

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There are those from both the extreme right and left who feel those on the opposing end of the spectrum should be eradicated along with their respective ideologies.

check3We are all citizens of the same country, and therefore afforded the same rights and freedoms.

 

So, where does that leave us?

Continue reading Are we choosing our battles wisely over the marriage debate?

Do we damn ourselves (or others) to a life of doom and loneliness because of these real physical feelings?

This is part 3 of a 7-part series on same-sex attraction

For part 1, click here

For series summary, click here

What is the purpose of life?

Ahhh.

platoCan’t we all hear the philosophers elbowing each other out of the way in a rush to debate and defend different positions on what exactly is the reason we keep breathing?

Let’s save some time and just sweep them out of the way.

Bye bye.

Now let’s tweak the question: What is the purpose of your life?

Continue reading Do we damn ourselves (or others) to a life of doom and loneliness because of these real physical feelings?

Can it be a good thing to struggle with same-sex attraction?

While working in retail management, a thorn in the sides of all my managers was the company policy of selling the store credit card. This was when the country was realizing the danger of having too many cards and people were consolidating down to just a Visa or American Express.

This was frustrating for us because we knew our customers personally. We had worked to build friendships with them, which created repeat traffic as well as a better atmosphere in the stores. We worked hard to listen to them when they came in. The problem was that our customers were telling us to stop bothering them about the credit card.credit card

But the corporate office was telling us that we had to get our statistics up in the number of cards we sold each week.

The two were in direct conflict with each other. We could either treat our customers the way we felt was best, or we could follow company policy and continue to be very aggressive in credit signups.

I shared this major frustration with my boss, hoping for a compromise that would allow us to do as we felt best with our customers while still keeping the corporate office happy.

The response was simple. Continue reading Can it be a good thing to struggle with same-sex attraction?

Family by chance, friends by choice

facingthesunAugust 28 we did a post where we reflected on an opportunity Ann and I had to talk about important relationships in our life: With God, with our family, with our fellowmen, and with ourselves. On that day we dove into the last one and asked if we really do like ourselves.

boys-on-swingThen on September 8 we worked backward on the list and underscored the importance of liking ourselves enough to be able to really like those around us.

Should we take the plunge and talk about those we just can’t get rid of, no matter how hard we try? Continue reading Family by chance, friends by choice