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We really do end where we begin

This is part 6 in a series on The Family

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Why do we pray?

The other night Ann and I were talking about things that are really important to us – you know, the things for which we choose to give our lives.

The things we pray intently for, about, and over.


My days have become a kind of a running dialogue with Heaven: gratitude; people we care about; our leaders; increased faith and charity.

There are as many things to pray about as I have breaths.

However, I would be willing to bet that each of us has a very personal, very important list of things we pray for continuously; a list of things that are always in our minds and our hearts.

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My list has whittled itself down to three: Specific blessings for Ann, specific blessings for Alex, and specific blessings for Nick.

My family.

Continue reading We really do end where we begin

What does it really mean to be attracted to someone?

This is part 2 of a 7-part series on same-sex attraction

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It wasn’t as prevalent when I was a teenager as it is now. We were simplistic enough to just say “hey, do you like her?” or “do you think he likes me?” while we lean against our locker and watch them walk down the hall. lockers

I know. You’re thinking “What is he, 12?”

My favorite was “does she make your hormones hum?”

But now it is all about being attracted to someone. “I feel attracted to her; does he feel attracted to me?”

Or the opposite: “I just don’t feel any attraction to this person.”

The level of attraction will determine whether or not the next step is to pursue a date.

Continue reading What does it really mean to be attracted to someone?

I am grateful for my identity

For some reason, my mind seems to commune with Heaven a little better if I am moving around. Of course, I still kneel at my bedside each day, but some of the stronger and more memorable connections have come through praying while puttering around the house.

The other day I was scrubbing the shower walls and bathtub. The soap scum was cowering and shaking knowing that I wouldn’t stop until every last hint was gone.bathtub

Chalk that one up to OCD.

Some of you may know, and some of you may not, but my mother died from breast cancer 23 years ago. The loss of a mother to a young 24 year-old, newly-wed son can only be understood by others who have experienced such a loss.

But that’s a story for another day.

While reaching up to get the corners of the marble in the shower I was in the middle of one of my daily conversations with my Father in Heaven.

As I do from time to time, I prayed that my mom knew that we love her and miss her. I prayed that she is happy. Continue reading I am grateful for my identity

What role do relationships play in mental illness?

What would a discussion about relationships be without spending a few minutes underlying their importance on controlling mental illness?

Well, it wouldn’t be consistent with me being me, would it?

I was visiting with my Dad a few days ago. As is the norm, he expressed concern and interest in how Ann and I are weathering the storm.clouds2

I thought about it and realized that it didn’t really feel like there was a storm at the moment.

Let me clarify:

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My nutso symptoms have actually been ramping up a bit over the last month. This discourages us a little; we would certainly rather that things were going the other direction.

In fact, I’ve had several days in the last couple of weeks where things have hit the screamer/madness stage again, and I’ve had to just hold on. The number of episodes has increased. Continue reading What role do relationships play in mental illness?

Can we only really change through consistency?

Interesting concept, don’t you think?

Let’s go ahead and tackle the last on our list of relationships, which is actually the first in importance: Relationships with our God, with our family, with our fellowmen, and with ourselves.

Perhaps the first and most obvious question would be to ask what does it really mean to have a relationship with God?clouds4

Probably billions and billions of answers to that soul searching query.

I can with certainty only offer one, and that would be mine. Continue reading Can we only really change through consistency?